I am most definitely not an expert when it comes to intimate relationships, but I have found with my fiancé a wonderful nugget of wisdom, which I’m sure you more seasoned individuals already know. However, I’d still like to share it just in case something new pops out to you. Feel free to build upon or add a golden nugget of your own!
We often hear that for an intimate relationship to succeed there must be all the right ingredients: honesty, respect, trust, compassion, love and communication, to name a few. But communication is especially important, as without it your partner may not fully receive your honest thoughts or deep feelings of trust for them.
For example, if you are, or have ever been, in a long distance relationship as I am, then verbal communication becomes that much more integral to the success of the relationship. Of course, this does not mean that you should talk talk talk without taking a crucial moment to listen, or that the topics of conversation need to be incredibly important; rather, how you communicate (verbally or non-verbally) is what is important.
One way to communicate respect and trust, for instance, is by knowing when and when not to clam up. Oftentimes subtle negative feelings seep into a relationship, and one or the other does nothing to address it, hoping that it just fades away. But that is not the time to shut up – rather it is the time to speak up and nail those uncomfortable feelings on the head. Through addressing such situations immediately – nipping it in the bud – the relationship can be given a chance to take a step forward, provided both individuals are open and accepting of each other.
That boldness in speaking out when the tendency is to remain silent is a strong communicative action that lets your partner know “I care about you and our relationship, I trust you enough to convey that and I want to work on it together.” Nothing communicates love like overcoming your own insecurities for the sake of bettering the whole relationship.